Wednesday, February 13, 2008

Response to Comments

Several people have asked if I can find another doctor who is more encouraging and supportive. I will tell you Monday when I walked out of the office I was ready to ask for my Medical Records. There is one other fertility specialist in Jackson. The next closest place would be Memphis which is 2 hours away (about the same distance). As soon as I walked out of the clinic Monday, before I even hit the button for the elevator, I called by OB/GYN. He is the most wonderful man/doctor in the whole world. The last time I miscarried he delayed his family vacation to sit in the lab with me for an hour while we waited for results to come back. He was supposed to call me from home Monday night, but he was on call and had a long night. He did call me back yesterday. I told him that I knew he probably couldn't talk to me since I was under the care of another physician, but he said that he is my doctor and to call him anytime. WE had a long talk. I got some questions answered. I told him that I really didn't like the RE but he did get me pregnant. He said he understood. I explained to him that the only answers I get to my questions from the RE are "Because I'm the Expert, That's Why" or "We'll talk about that next week". He said he understood and that was what he expected from the RE> He explained that I am just a number, only a statistic to the RE. That his whole livelihood depends on the stats coming out of his office. He also explained that RE's work "In the Ivory Tower" meaning they think they are better than everyone else and know everything. He also went on to explain to me that RE's are very scientific and because of that they are very "textbook". Meaning if the textbook says the heartbeat should be visible by 6 weeks and it's not there then the pregnancy is doomed.

So, then I asked about my specific situation. And before I could even start, my doctor said, Beth, you are not a typical case and you have probably freaked him out a bit. Most fertility patients have one maybe two things wrong with them. I am hit from all angles.
So we talked about the heartbeat at 6 weeks and how we didn’t see it and how the RE is “textbook”. Then we discussed the small sac this week. My Ob said that although there could be a problem. Not to dwell on it. Keep it in the back of my head but to hold on to the fact that we saw a heartbeat. There could be multiple reasons why the sac was small and none of them may be important. He said all I could do now is pray and that he and his staff would be praying as well.

So then I asked about the heparin. He said doctors start using it at different times. He likes to see a heartbeat first, but that he didn’t see a problem waiting until 10 or 12 weeks. He said that it is fine for the RE to be rerunning the tests and since the whole disorder is controversial anyway (which I knew) there may not be anything wrong with me. This gene mutation can show up and never affect anything or it can cause BIG problems. So as we were hanging up I asked if I had done everything I could medically. He said yes; all we can do now is pray. So that is what we are doing. Praying for this baby to be healthy and continue to grow and thanking God for everyday we have with him/her.
I thank you all for your support and prayers. Keep lifting them up. WE still have a long way to go!!!!

“Our God is in Heaven; He does what pleases Him.” Psalms 115:3



Debbie said...

You Ob/Gyn sounds like a very understanding man. I like the way he talked to you. I'm sorry you can't switch RE's. I know our first RE, the one we did 5 IUI's with was not a nice person either.

I'm continuing to pray for you and your baby.

heatherclardy said...

Hey. I learned of your blog from Celeste Gillis. She asked for prayer for you. I just wanted you to know that I was told I would never conceive and carry a child a few years ago, due to lots of reasons. I saw a fertility specialist in Mobile, AL, who I absolutely love. He and his nurse were a blessing from the Lord. He did a couple surgeries on me and ran lots of tests. Although the chances of me having a child were slim, he still never let me feel hopeless. Moral to the story... I now have a little girl in which I conceived without any fertility meds or treatments. God is not bound to the statistics or rules of science, He is hope when there seems to be nothing to grasp on to. He gives you all the strength you need in all situations. I will be lifting you up in prayer. God can!

Anonymous said...

I love your GROW BABY GROW cheer! I am still prayind daily along with many others who are lifting you and this baby up in prayer. I will also pray for your RE situation. Some people don't know the power of their words and don't always use them wisely. Thankfully your Ob/Gyn is so wonderful. Text me Monday to let me know how it goes.
Celeste Gillis

Buford Betty said...

I have been so behind on blog reading lately...OMG! I've definitely got you on my prayer list now. Grow baby grow! I truly believe in God's miracles - you just never know! ;-) I'll be thinking of you and looking forward to updates.

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